Divorce might seem confusing to your children and cause them to feel uncertain and frustrated. Managing your own emotions while trying to help your children too, may feel impossible at times.
When you have an idea of how you can support your children through this difficult time, you might improve the effectiveness of your approach.
Show unconditional love
More than ever before, your children need your love and encouragement right now. Showing unconditional love will provide comfort, reassurance and hope. According to the Child Mind Institute, one of the best ways to help your children through divorce is to respectfully acknowledge their emotions.
Listen to their concerns and encourage them to process their feelings. Make time to spend with them. Create opportunities for them to socialize and do activities they look forward to. Consistently reiterate your love and admiration for them. Each of these actions will express your unconditional love and commitment to your children.
Put differences aside
Despite the resentment you may feel toward your former spouse, do your best to put your differences aside. Your children need to feel the love and support of both of their parents. Refrain from speaking negatively about your ex in front of your children. Try to keep any communication cordial and professional. When your children feel at ease and you do your part to minimize tension, they may adapt more effectively and efficiently.
You can play a big role in how your children respond to your divorce. You may need the help of a professional therapist to help your children cope with the changes. However, your willingness to acknowledge that your children need extra love and comfort during this time may mitigate the negative consequences of your changing family dynamic from thwarting their success.
